I like decorative signs. You know, those vintage looking painted wooden signs with sweet or funny sayings on them?
Sometimes they’re cute:
“All guests must be approved by the dog.”
“We may not have it all together but together we have it all.”
“Together is a wonderful place to be.”
“Family: a journey to forever.”
“I love you more than bacon.”
“Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your kids.”
“I’m not bossy, I just know what you should be doing.”
“I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow doesn’t look good either.”
A little ridiculous:
“Friends are like snowflakes, if you pee on them they disappear.”
“Live, love, bark… roll in a dead squirrel.”
And often these signs poke fun at the relationship between husband and wife:
“An old nag and her stud live here.”
“The smartest thing a man ever said: ‘Yes dear!’”
But sometimes, “funny” isn’t funny. Sometimes, the line is crossed. Last Friday I was in a store and saw a sign that said this:
“All men are idiots and I married their king.”
Wives, did you chuckle when you read that sign? I didn’t. I winced. Visibly. As I stood there and looked at that sign, it made me very sad. I thought about taking a picture of it, but chose not to because I didn’t even want that photo to be on my phone. I later Googled this phrase, and found not only signs, but t-shirts, coffee mugs, key chains, buttons, and even light switch covers all bearing this awful sentiment.
Husbands, wouldn’t you just love it if your wife bought that sign and brought it home to hang on the wall? Wouldn’t you laugh, hahaha, at the funny little joke? No. You wouldn’t. And you shouldn’t. Nobody should laugh when a wife feels like it’s okay to say that about her husband.
For some reason in our American culture it has become okay to poke fun at men. It’s okay to knock their ego down a notch. Little girls are growing up to be women who still believe that “Girls rule, boys drool!” But it’s not true and it’s not okay.
Just as women desperately need to feel loved and wanted, men need to know they are trusted and respected. They need to be built up and encouraged, not “knocked down a notch.”
Just as us girls need to hear “I love you” and need to feel “I want you,” our guys need to hear in our words “I’m proud of you” and recognize in our actions “I trust you.”
Girls, don’t talk bad about your men. Show them respect – privately and especially publically. Be mindful of what you say; what you think is just playful teasing in front of his friends might be a lot more painful than you realize. And don’t ever badmouth your man when he’s not around. You may think it’s “venting,” but really it’s just reinforcing a negative perspective that’s a lot more dangerous than you know.
His wife should be the one person a man can be most vulnerable with. Don’t take that for granted. Don’t abuse that privilege. Always be careful what you say, because sometimes “funny” really is anything but funny.