Why is it important to say, “I love you” to your kids every day?
Why do we need to hear those words from our spouse on a daily basis?
Do we forget if they don’t tell us often? Do we stop believing it if we don’t hear it enough?
I don’t know.
I don’t know why that constant affirmation is so necessary or important, but it is.
I grew up in a family where “I love you’s” were frequently heard and freely bestowed, along with hugs and kisses and bedtime prayers. I never doubted my parents’ love and concern for me – they proved it daily through their words and actions. I know that I was blessed in a powerful way that sadly, many children are not.
Now in my marriage, “I love you’s” are also plentiful and frequent. Anytime we part ways, end a phone conversation, send a text message, or just hang out, “I love you” is always part of the dialogue. I have no doubt the trend will continue when we welcome children into our family someday.
There’s no doubt that saying and hearing “I love you” regularly is incredibly important. But I think sometimes we need to take it a step further.
I was reminded of this last Friday when I came home from work. I knew that Geoff wouldn’t be home when I got there – he was at the studio late editing tracks from his latest recording session. All day I had been plotting to get off early, go home, bake cookies, and then drive to the studio to surprise him (yes, I get wife points for that).
Well, the getting off early didn’t happen, and Friday evening traffic sucks, even with my measly four-mile commute. By the time I got home, I wasn’t sure about the plan anymore. I walked in our bedroom, plopped my bags down in defeat, and then noticed a note on my pillow. A folded up piece of notebook paper with the words “Beautiful Babe” scrawled on the front.
A grin spread across my face as I picked it up and unfolded it. By the time I finished reading the six simple sentences, there were tears in my eyes. It was more than “I love you.” That note communicated, “I cherish you,” “I adore you,” “I’m proud of you,” “I thank God for you,” and so much more. Geoff communicates these things to me every day through his actions, but for him to take a moment to write it down and leave it for me to find meant the world to me.
Needless to say, I baked those cookies and made that drive to the studio.
Don’t take it for granted that your loved ones know how much you love them. Say, “I love you” often. Say more than, “I love you” too. Say it with your actions, but also say it with your words. It might just mean the world to someone.